Spouses with social anxiety

Spouses with social anxiety

In modern world more and more adults are suffering from severe stress. They blame stress for the deteriorating relationships on their spouse. If we are looking at the growing rate of divorces, court cases for alimony, physical abuses and single parents, it does seem as if handling a relationship can be a tricky and often risky thing. Possible causes of social anxiety can be endless, but major factors could be an unaffectionate spouse, handling of monetary affairs such as budgeting, investments, expenditures, or lack of proper communication between spouses. Other cause of social anxiety could be that the spouses cannot find quality time for each other; extramarital relationships and the list could go on.

Almost all spouses with social anxiety and relationship difficulties say that the main cause of their problems is stress. Studies reviled that social anxiety comes from three major relationship categories; child – parent, marital and career. Whether you stay at home or work, remaining cool, calm and full of energy can be difficult issue for single or married, mother or father, parent of one child or several children. Some of the common parental stressors could be for example aggressive children, or handling stepchildren, also caring for a physically or mentally challenged child could be a big cause of stress.

 Bad marital relationships could lead to big health problems such as depression, insomnia and hypertension and since a relationship depends on the person’s nature involved in it, the couple should seek for a middle path when they realise that their couple could be damaged. There are many spouses with social anxiety that find in counselling the final resort to their problems; but they always can talk openly with each other about the problems that are facing in their relationship, and another helpful thing to do is to change one’s attitude. When spouses decide to take counselling, their therapist tells them that they have to realise that one can’t change their partner, and that people are who they are and they have to accept their souses or else get out of the relationship. But what people that require to the counselling and including many marriage counsellors fail to realise is that they can change their partners.

There is a secret that lies in how we target our energy and efforts. Because our capacity to change others is entirely based on our willingness to change ourselves, it’s simply the reality of relationship dynamics and there is nothing tricky in it. Our willingness to that we are wrong let go of our stubbornness and move towards our spouses in loving and caring ways can be far more convince than arguing or blaming, and isn’t easy to let go of our arrogance especially when we feel justified.

Tests were made on several spouses with social anxiety, to examine relation ships between differentiation of self, social anxiety, and physiological symptoms. The main discovery was that a spouse differentiation was negatively correlated with social anxiety, in particular fear of negative evolution and physiological symptoms. The result was that the differentiation is a meaningful construct for spouses with social anxiety, than the ones with less differentiated spouses may be at risk for high levels of social anxiety. People like Ravi Bhoothalingam, President of the Oberoi Group in India, believes that it is very important to handle anxiety in marital relationship at the primary level of communication, and that can be done by letting others know the problem that is bothering you.